Why do I even give a s***?
When I was 18, 19, 20, 21 I did not give a flying f*** what people thought about me.
But now, at 24, I can not stop thinking about what others think, one factor is that I have gained a lot of weight and all I can think is everyone is staring at me.
I can't stop thinking that I am a failure because I haven't had a job for more than a year and instead of fighting for a job I didn't want, I went back into education. So yet again, I am a student, a student on the verge of graduation with no job lined up.
I've been in this place before and frankly, I just got on with it, applied for jobs that would provide me with enough money to live and pay my debts. And now I'm sick of it.
So why do we care so much about what other people think? Is it the rise of social media, that allows us to see how well people are doing? Is it the fact that we have been conditioned into thinking that other people have power over us, whether that be at a job interview or the gym?
Growing up in the arts I have always left myself open to criticism, whether that was auditioning for music college, singing for my peers or writing an article that will go towards my degree, I was constantly judged/marked for my efforts.
I can safely say this influenced my decision to give up acting/singing at a young age. However, I have now realised that it doesn't matter what you do, someone will ALWAYS be judging you.
So why give up on your dreams?
One reason is financing, the other is fear and the next issue is time.
We live in a world where money is crucial, it defines our social status, our living situation, health etc. A lot of people starting off in their careers don't earn a lot of money - at all. But is the experience worth more than the money?
Like many people, I am extremely impatient, I can not fathom the idea of working for free when I need to pay bills. But apparently, as a writer, it's something we are conditioned to do in order to gain 'valuable experience'. So why can't you pay me to gain experience? Is that too much to ask?
The second issue, fear, is something that is formed throughout your life, for example, I have been told from a young age that my writing, grammar, syntax and sentence structure was crap, and so for a long time I stopped writing, I stopped reading and I turned to a more physical activity. I am accustomed to negative feedback when it comes to my writing, I am not a 'naturally talented' writer, in order to produce an essay it takes me weeks of editing just to make it readable...but I like to challenge myself.
If you don't challenge yourself, how will you grow as a person?
The third issue is time, time is something that can't be rushed, you need time to gain experience, become accustomed to rejection, learn from mistakes and make your way through the ranks until you achieve your dream career. Like I previously stated, I am impatient, I both hate and love the fact that time changes everything. I am always open to change, but some changes don't happen overnight, they happen over weeks, months, even years.
What I am trying to say is that if you don't know what to do then you are certainly not alone. If you're stuck in a job you don't like, then the fact is so are thousands of others.
I HATE the fact that you can't control factors like money or time, but you can keep doing what you love. Whether it's writing a blog to keep your writing skills up or posting videos of yourself singing to Youtube, you never know what might be just around the corner - keep striving for greatness.
Do you even give a s***?
But now, at 24, I can not stop thinking about what others think, one factor is that I have gained a lot of weight and all I can think is everyone is staring at me.
I can't stop thinking that I am a failure because I haven't had a job for more than a year and instead of fighting for a job I didn't want, I went back into education. So yet again, I am a student, a student on the verge of graduation with no job lined up.
I've been in this place before and frankly, I just got on with it, applied for jobs that would provide me with enough money to live and pay my debts. And now I'm sick of it.
So why do we care so much about what other people think? Is it the rise of social media, that allows us to see how well people are doing? Is it the fact that we have been conditioned into thinking that other people have power over us, whether that be at a job interview or the gym?
Growing up in the arts I have always left myself open to criticism, whether that was auditioning for music college, singing for my peers or writing an article that will go towards my degree, I was constantly judged/marked for my efforts.
I can safely say this influenced my decision to give up acting/singing at a young age. However, I have now realised that it doesn't matter what you do, someone will ALWAYS be judging you.
So why give up on your dreams?
One reason is financing, the other is fear and the next issue is time.
We live in a world where money is crucial, it defines our social status, our living situation, health etc. A lot of people starting off in their careers don't earn a lot of money - at all. But is the experience worth more than the money?
Like many people, I am extremely impatient, I can not fathom the idea of working for free when I need to pay bills. But apparently, as a writer, it's something we are conditioned to do in order to gain 'valuable experience'. So why can't you pay me to gain experience? Is that too much to ask?
The second issue, fear, is something that is formed throughout your life, for example, I have been told from a young age that my writing, grammar, syntax and sentence structure was crap, and so for a long time I stopped writing, I stopped reading and I turned to a more physical activity. I am accustomed to negative feedback when it comes to my writing, I am not a 'naturally talented' writer, in order to produce an essay it takes me weeks of editing just to make it readable...but I like to challenge myself.
If you don't challenge yourself, how will you grow as a person?
The third issue is time, time is something that can't be rushed, you need time to gain experience, become accustomed to rejection, learn from mistakes and make your way through the ranks until you achieve your dream career. Like I previously stated, I am impatient, I both hate and love the fact that time changes everything. I am always open to change, but some changes don't happen overnight, they happen over weeks, months, even years.
What I am trying to say is that if you don't know what to do then you are certainly not alone. If you're stuck in a job you don't like, then the fact is so are thousands of others.
I HATE the fact that you can't control factors like money or time, but you can keep doing what you love. Whether it's writing a blog to keep your writing skills up or posting videos of yourself singing to Youtube, you never know what might be just around the corner - keep striving for greatness.
Do you even give a s***?
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